FIXATED ON HAVING THE BEST CHRISTMAS EVER

It’s not what you’re thinking.

I mean, it’s not about making the longest list ever for making this Christmas perfect.

It’s NOT…..

            ….having 3 Christmas trees in the house to feel Christmas in every living level of your home.

            ….changing every burnt out outdoor Christmas lightbulb. 

            ….making a plate of cookies for 5 neighbors, your ministering sisters, and the postman.

            ….hanging more Christmas decorations throughout the house.

            ….doing every “LightTheWorld” activity.

            ….buying new Christmas presents for your grandkids because the ones you bought on sale last year don’t seem very fun.

            ….volunteering at a different NPO every week in December.

            ….sending out Christmas cards to people you have sent to since your kids moved out of the house.

Being fixated on having the best Christmas ever is excepting permission to do none of the above, unless you want to.

I’m not talking about what you’re going to do to make it the best Christmas ever, but what you can THINK to make it so.

When I believe I’m going to have the best day ever; that’s what usually happens. 

I’ve given my brain the assignment t find evidence to prove it’s the best day ever.  I am in control of how I want to feel about my day.  I keep all the power to creating emotionally how I want to feel at the end of the day.  

It’s not about havingthe most perfect Christmas ever; it’s about having the best Christmas ever.

Here’s an example of how it pans out in real life.

My husband told me on Thursday that tomorrow, Friday was the last guaranteed day to have packages mailed and be delivered by Christmas.  That meant on Friday,  1. I had to finish wrapping and packaging four larges boxes of presents to mailed to my Salt Lake City grandkids and my San Diego grandkids;  2. I had 11 client Christmas packages to wrap and prepare for mailing;  3. I had to write and post a blog post.

I started at 7:00 am, Friday, wrapping and packaging the SLC and SD presents. After finding mailing boxes, weighing, taping and labeling them, it was 1:30 pm.

5.5 hours and my back was screaming at me….STOP!!!

I had nothing left in me physically.  I took a 2 hour nap.

I was able to get enough physical strength to grocery shop for items I would need the next day to make dinner for a sick friend; I was able to send out my weekly podcasts to my clients (A commitment I’ve made to them); and I was able to fix dinner,

No blog post; no packages sent to clients….My body just kept telling me I was so done for the day. My Spirit was willing to do more but my body was finished!

As one of my clients told me, “you don’[t have to be perfect, you just have to do your best”.

Was I frustrated, overwhelmed, disappointed?  Not at all.

To feel any of those feelings, I wouldn’t be able to have the best Christmas ever.  I had told myself that I had done my best; my priority was the gifts being mailed to my grandkids.

I got up today, Saturday, and was abled to get my clients’ gifts wrapped and mailed before the post office closed at 1:00 pm.

I’m getting my blog post posted a day late;  and that’s ok because I mis committed, (to myself), because I’m human.

I’ll take dinner to my sick friend: alls good because I focus on having the best Christmas ever.

----Covid isn’t going to keep me from it.

----A not-so-decorated house means I don’t have as many decorations to put away after Christmas.

-----The burnt out outdoor Christmas lights reminds me that we live I a unpergect world.

----If I don’t make cookies, that doesn’t mean anything  has gone wrong.

-----I f I only choose to do “LightTheWorld” activities a couple times a week, I’m still a really good person.

----If I think of Christ with every light I see, I’ll have the best Christmas ever. 

By telling myself what I expect feel about Christmas is what I’ll get out of this Christmas.

Some tips for making the Christmas of your dreams come true.

  1.  Believe it is going to be the type of Christmas you want it to be….the best Christmas EVER.
  2. Make a simple plan to make it fun; and then cross off half the things on your list.
  3. Find something fun in everything you do.
  4. Create your own connection with the people that mean the most to you; you be kind to them first, don’t wait for them to kind to you.  [ 1 John 4;19 We love him, because he first loved us ].
  5.  If you feel you have been the circumstance that has caused someone to feel offended, do something kind for them….buy them a candy bar, shovel their driveway, text them a funny IG post.
  6. Decide right now how you’re going to feel Christmas Day Eve.

The magic from this happening comes from understand the Model.  Our circumstances triggers our thoughts , which cause us to feel a certain way, which feeling causes us to act in a certain way, which in turn causes us to act the way our feeling causes us to act; the action causes a certain result to happen.

The model for Christmas:

Circumstance – Christmas

Thought – This is going to be the best Christmas ever

Feeling – Peaceful; Excited; Satisfied; Loving

Action – Do only those things that you really want to do;  backing away from activities that cause you to feel overwhelmed.

I can help you feel anyway you want to feel, using the Model.  It’s easy to learn but harder to apply.  I would be honored to be your coach to help you, especially if you are struggling in your relationships with your adult children.

It’s not what you’re thinking.

I mean, it’s not about making the longest list ever 9f making this Christmas perfect.

It’s NOT…..

            ….having 3 Christmas trees in the house to feel Christmas in every living level of your home.

            ….changing every burnt out outdoor Christmas lightbulb. 

            ….making a plate of cookies for 5 neighbors, your ministering sisters, and the postman.

            ….hanging more Christmas decorations throughout the house.

            ….doing every “LightTheWorld” activity.

            ….buying new Christmas presents for your grandkids because the ones you bought on sale last year don’t seem very fun.

            ….volunteering at a different NPO every week in December.

            ….sending out Christmas cards to people you have sent to since your kids moved out of the house.

Being fixated on having the best Christmas ever is excepting permission to do none of the above, unless you want to.

I’m not talking about what you’re going to do to make it the best Christmas ever, but what you can THINK to make it so.

When I believe I’m going to have the best day ever; that’s what usually happens. 

I’ve given my brain the assignment t find evidence to prove it’s the best day ever.  I am in control of how I want to feel about my day.  I keep all the power to creating emotionally how I want to feel at the end of the day.  

It’s not about havingthe most perfect Christmas ever; it’s about having the best Christmas ever.

Here’s an example of how it pans out in real life.

My husband told me on Thursday that tomorrow, Friday was the last guaranteed day to have packages mailed and be delivered by Christmas.  That meant on Friday,  1. I had to finish wrapping and packaging four larges boxes of presents to mailed to my Salt Lake City grandkids and my San Diego grandkids;  2. I had 11 client Christmas packages to wrap and prepare for mailing;  3. I had to write and post a blog post.

I started at 7:00 am, Friday, wrapping and packaging the SLC and SD presents. After finding mailing boxes, weighing, taping and labeling them, it was 1:30 pm.

5.5 hours and my body was screaming at me….STOP!!!

I had nothing left in me physically.  I took a 2 hour nap.

I was able to get enough physical strength to grocery shop for items I would need the next day to make dinner for a sick friend; I was able to send out my weekly send to send out podcast to my clients (A commitment I’ve made to them); and fix dinner,

No blog post; no packages sent to clients….I was so done.

As one of my clients told me, “you don’[t have to be perfect, you just have to do your best”.

Was I frustrated, overwhelmed, disappointed?  Not at all.

To feel any of those feelings, I wouldn’t be able to have the best Christmas ever.  I had told myself that I had done my best; my priority was the gifts being mailed to my grandkids.

I got up today, Saturday, and was abled to get my clients’ gifts wrapped and mailed before the post office closed at 1:00 pm.

I’m getting my blog post posted a day late;  and that’s ok because I mis committed, (to myself), because I’m human.

I’ll take dinner to my sick friend: alls good because I focus on having the best Christmas ever.

----Covid isn’t going to keep me from it.

----A not-so-decorated house means I don’t have as many decorations to put away after Christmas.

-----The burnt out outdoor Christmas lights reminds me that we live I a unpergect world.

----If I don’t make cookies, that doesn’t mean anything  has gone wrong.

-----I f I only choose to do “LightTheWorld” activities a couple times a week, I’m still a really good person.

----If I think of Christ with every light I see, I’ll have the best Christmas ever. 

By telling myself what I expect feel about Christmas is what I’ll get out of this Christmas.

Some tips for making the Christmas of your dreams come true.

  1.  Believe it is going to be the type of Christmas you want it to be….the best Christmas EVER.
  2. Make a simple plan to make it fun; and then cross off half the things on your list.
  3. Find something fun in everything you do.
  4. Create your own connection with the people that mean the most to you; you be kind to them first, don’t wait for them to kind to you.  [ 1 John 4;19 We love him, because he first loved us ].
  5.  If you feel you have been the circumstance that has caused someone to feel offended, do something kind for them….buy them a candy bar, shovel their driveway, text them a funny IG post.
  6. Decide right now how you’re going to feel Christmas Day Eve.

The magic from this happening comes from understand the Model.  Our circumstances triggers our thoughts , which cause us to feel a certain way, which feeling causes us to act in a certain way, which in turn causes us to act the way our feeling causes us to act; the action causes a certain result to happen.

The model for Christmas:

Circumstance – Christmas

Thought – This is going to be the best Christmas ever

Feeling – Peaceful; Excited; Satisfied; Loving

Action – Do only those things that you really want to do;  backing away from activities that cause you to feel overwhelmed.

I can help you feel anyway you want to feel, using the Model.  It’s easy to learn but harder to apply.  I would be honored to be your coach to help you, especially if you are struggling in your relationships with your adult children.

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